Paternal Instinct
It’s never easy being away from home, away from your love ones. An even more difficult to bear is not being there when the kids are growing up. All overseas parents sacrifice this just so their kids are able to have a better life, with a major consequence:they become estranged from their kids.
Some parents go through extra lengths so that their kids are able to come with them to the country/place that they work. It just so prevalent, especially here(Middle East) they are so excited to go home and meet their kids but come back feeling empty and a stranger to their kids. It’s just so sad, I’ve consoled some of my friends here feeling that way.
I was privy to the love of the father to his son when a friend of mine told me of an almost dilemma he had today. You see, he had worked overseas for almost 25+ years, his kids grew up without him around, and although he was able to provide them with their needs he still felt a stranger around them. There was a sense of bitter regret about being away from them, and he was always looking up for something to make up for it. That’s why he was so excited when his son got approved to work here, he thinks nows the time to finally get closer to him.
His department head is transferring his son to another location, which totally surprised and disheartened him since he requested his son to work with him. He was getting upset already but instead of blowing up, he told the truth: It was his last chance to be a father to his son, a role he sacrificed to be a better provider to his family. It was a father card he drew, and it worked they reconsidered.
I am not a father(hopefully this year) yet, hopefully when that time comes I won’t be a stranger to my kid. That’s one of my greatest fear.
Happy Father’s Day to All!!!
